If you smile at someone, they tend to smile back at you.
If you go out of your way to help someone, that person in turn might help another and so on. You can train yourself to be more positive in small ways that quickly add up to becoming a more positive person and there are relatively minor things you can do to start the process!
Every little action sets in motion the potential for a greater good. So, as you go through this list, don’t overlook the value of committing to any of these. They all have the potential to do more.
Positivity behind the wheel
Sociologists tell us that when people get into their cars, they think they are in some sort of invisible vehicle. No one sees them as they drive down the road. If you swear or scream, who needs to know? Obviously, you are not invisible and the way you behave as a motorist has the potential to impact other motorists as well as pedestrians.
The next time someone stops you in traffic, misusing their turn signal, or engaging in inappropriate (but not dangerous) driving, practice keeping your cool. Don’t curse, yell, honk, or engage in counter-tidal maneuvers. If the other person is in sight, look blankly at them, but not with disgust, anger, or a mocking smile.
Often the other person knows what they did wrong. If he doesn’t, ventilating your spleen probably won’t change his behavior.
Anytime you can stay calm, you increase the likelihood that you will be calmer in other areas of your life. You may even be kinder to people face to face when they commit a transgression.
If you travel frequently, for example for work, and often cross busy thoroughfares, chances are you will have the opportunity at least several times a week to practice doing small demonstrations. of positivity. As a goal, why not establish one composed answer per week?
Personally help someone less fortunate than you
It’s one thing to write a check to charity, it’s another to meet someone in need and help them right away. As a small gesture of positivity, what can you do for someone you see on the street?
When you have shoes that you don’t wear anymore, but aren’t necessarily in pieces, keep them in your trunk as you walk around town. Then if you see a homeless person with insufficient shoes and it looks like you are about the same height, stop. Unequivocally, take the shoes out of your trunk, approach the person, and tell them that you want them to accept the shoes. If he accepts, okay, say good day and go. If he chooses not to take them, that’s fine too.
Your goal in this area might be to donate every pair of shoes or other valuable clothing that you no longer want, perhaps on a monthly basis.
Be part of a group
If the above isn’t your cup of tea, volunteer once a month to serve a meal at a local homeless shelter. If you are a busy career type, maybe serving dinner is right for you. No matter what your preconceived ideas about it, once you serve dinner to real people, you will find that reality is different from what you thought.
Maybe you think people would be reluctant to talk about what they wanted. Or worse, they would crawl and you would have to do your best to stay humble. Maybe you feel like you’ll sound like some kind of “shoe softness,” handing out dinners with a “And how are you tonight?” Here is a good dinner for you â.
In fact, none of the above is likely to happen. Person to person, you serve another, as if you were in partnership. More peas? Less carrots? It’s more factual than you might imagine. They are grateful but don’t crawl. Some of the people who come to a shelter are well dressed. Perhaps they are temporarily unemployed. Maybe they had a financial emergency they weren’t ready to handle.
The more you serve others in this way, the easier it becomes to start over. You begin to understand that there are many more similarities between human beings than there are differences. The old axiom, âThere, but for the grace of God, will I,â is much truer than we all often recognize.
Seeking good in others
Will Rogers, a political satirist, artist and beloved figure of the first half of the twentieth century is said to have said: “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Many people have interpreted Will Rogers to mean that he can find something admirable in anyone he meets. So, too, can we all.
Is there a colleague with whom you have had an unpleasant relationship? Is there something good about this coworker that you can lean on, so that you can actually say something nice to him the next time you meet?
Is there a neighbor with whom you have had an ongoing quarrel? What would it do to your relationship if you sent your neighbor a card or a short note that said something like, “I noticed how beautiful your garden was the other day, and I wanted to let you know that I appreciate the work you’ve done to keep it going. “Too syrupy, or, forgive the expression, too flowery? Guess again.
You will be on this planet for a limited time. Do you want to spend your life exchanging hostilities with people, never having a way to restore some semblance of civility in the relationship?
Try to think of and list five people at work or elsewhere in your life who you may not have a good relationship with, but who you can recognize. Next to each person’s name, write a dash and then what’s good about them. Do they maintain a beautiful garden? Here are some ideas for you in case you do a blank. That person…
* Is kind to the receptionist at work.
* Makes assignments on time and therefore supports the team.
* Walk gently past your desk, so as not to disturb you.
* Welcomes you in the morning upon your arrival.
* Maintains his office well.
Outside of work, here are some ideas for finding the right one in others:
* Keeps the street in front of the yard free from debris.
* Is respectful of the needs of others for peace.
* Dress well.
* Has well-behaved children.
* Drive safely around the neighborhood.
Become a better listener to others
Listening is one of the most underrated skills of people. Your ability to listen to another person, giving them your full attention, can be an act of positivity, especially if the other person needs someone to listen to them. In this rushed world, too often we want people to summarize everything they say.
When you give others your full attention, you are essentially telling them that you appreciate them as a people. All activities and concerns in your life stop when another person’s words and feelings take over.
Consider the people in your life who have meant the most to you and chances are those who have listened to you the most. Whether it’s your parents, sibling, good friend, parent, teacher, coach, colleague, mentor or just someone on the street, you tend to value those who like you by listening to them.
At home, give your loved one one good listening time each day, and I promise you things will get better. Do the same with each child.